Hi Amazing Friends! I’m writing this post for three reasons, the first of which is to say THANK YOU and how grateful I am that you’re part of my community. Everything I do – the classes, blog posts, events – is for you and because of your amazing support. And, many times the posts (especially on Facebook!) are just as much for me!
The second reason is a personal announcement. My last name is changing back to my birth name of Ling. This was a decision that I considered very carefully for a very long time. I feel very connected to my birth name and am excited to return to it! Psyched to share the new look of my website and logo with you! Let me know what you think in the comments – would love to hear!
Random Ling facts: It’s both Norwegian and Chinese, and has much history in both cultures. It’s also the name of a meditation Mudra (hand position) that is said to help warm the body and assist with clearing sinus congestion (many of us could use that this time of year, right?!) Google “Ling Mudra” – it’s pretty cool!
I’m super excited to share everything that’s coming up with you – from the launch later this spring of my online course, Happiness Bootcamp, to many more new videos, a brand new podcast and more! Be sure you’re on my newsletter list (sign up to the right and you’ll receive a free copy of my Empower Your Day eBook!) to be the first to know about all the good new stuff!
Also, to celebrate all this awesomeness, I‘m hosting a FREE teleclass for you on March 25th called 3 Incredible Keys for Lasting Happiness ~ Finally! This class is packed full of great tips, tools, and huge perspective changes that will rock your foundation. If you can’t be on live, no worries – you’ll receive a link to the replay via email. Register free here.
Thanks again for being here! Looking forward to sharing awesome, life shifting goodness with you on March 25th!
I’ve become very clear on something lately. That much of the damage and frustration that occurs in any relationship or situation in our lives comes from one thing: making ourselves smaller to fit into it.
Playing it small and safe in life and in relationships can be like a low-grade fever or a slow moving infection. You don’t really realize it’s happening until you actually go for a check up and discover it’s there. You’ve been puttering along just fine as is. But the damage is happening and something must be done before it gets serious.
If you’re holding back and dimming your light out of fear that you may be too bold, say or do the wrong thing, be rejected, or rock the boat, you’re shrinking yourself and your life, as well as denying the world – and yourself – your true, amazing light.
A few years ago in a past relationship, I totally did this. I would bite my tongue to avoid conflict, turn down opportunities that I thought he wouldn’t approve of and the worst of all: avoid taking risks and chances in my business because of fear that if I failed I would disappoint him. And none of this had anything to do with him. It was all my doing. In fact, it was so unfair to him because the person he wanted to be with was ME. Not a smaller version of me. Not the PG version of me. He didn’t want the lite version of me, he wanted the LIGHT version of me!
So, here’s the deal. You are good enough. You’re amazing, in fact. Click to Tweet: Your thoughts and dreams are valid and powerful. Express and pursue them daringly. @kristimb The greatest change makers are the ones who aren’t afraid to ruffle a few feathers along their path. What you’re capable of if you free yourself to be the complete, uncensored you may blow your mind. This is also the path to your happiest, most peaceful self.
Forget the critics. Let go of the fear of screwing up – know that it’s part of making great things happen. Be willing to step out of your own way and take chances. Trust that the Uni-verse is there to support you.
The world and the people in your life are in great need of your light. You, in all your YOUness, is exactly why people will want to work with you, be in relationships with you, and support you. If you begin to play small, purposely downplay your dreams and desires and label yourself as “shrink to fit,” you’re not doing them – or you – any favors.
I believe what we all need to do is train ourselves to regularly check in with our inner voice to be sure we’re being true to our whole self and what we really, truly, deeply desire. Shrinking ourselves to fit into different situations can be a defense habit that comes to us automatically and can be a tough one to recognize and take charge of. It sure was for me. What I finally realized was that I was more concerned about the approval of others than I was about achieving my own dreams and desires.
The good news is that just like shifting any habit or pattern, by becoming conscious of the tendency to fall into the shrinking state of being, we can change the direction of our sails and head back to where the sun is shining.
Creating this shift may mean that some of the people and situations in our lives that are not in alignment with our best life and highest purpose fall away. That can be hard very at times. The key is to fully trust that what’s truly meant for you will remain, and that space will be created for the awesome.
By fully committing yourself to be your brightest, follow your dreams, and be your authentic, passionate self in every area of your life, you’ll naturally attract the relationships and opportunities that will lift you up, back you up, and empower you. Awesome doors will begin to fly open and invite you in. Life will flow with much more ease and clarity. This is the cycle of an authentic, powerful, joyful life.
Where in your life are you shrinking to fit? Playing small? Containing your voice? It’s time to set your full, beautiful, wild, dynamic self completely and totally free. Your soul and the world will be grateful.
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Sometimes the best way is to light your own way. xo
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In case you’ve been wondering, it’s okay to be a wanderer. It’s okay to not know what you want to be when you grow up – no matter what your age. It’s okay to deliberately create totally new chapters of your life any time you feel inspired, to explore, to marvel, to desire.
Love everything and everyone, make your art, plant your seeds. Live with amazement, passion, and a sense of wonder. Shake things up. Let go of the tendency to compare yourself to others, and of other people’s opinions.
Free yourself from the idea of what you thought your life would be or should be, and be enlivened by what is and what can be.
You are a radiant, gifted being of light. Embrace the now and be ready and open for what might be next. Go after that dream your heart’s been longing for. Seek adventure. Anything can happen!
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Expect amazing things and they will be. xoxo Love, Kristi
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Last year, I went on a huge, amazing journey to downsize my life. I sold my large house and about 70% of everything I owned. I bought a small house on roughly a quarter acre and started a little urban farm. I can’t tell you how healing, inspiring, and fulfilling it’s been.
Along my path to more simplicity and minimalism (still working on these, but have made huge progress), I learned a profound, empowering lesson that applies to so many areas of life.
When it comes to that “thing” we desire, whether it’s a piece of clothing, shoes, or a new job… most times, at the end of the day, it’s not the thing we’re truly after, but the feeling we will have when we get it.
It’s all about how we want to feel, not necessarily what we want to have. Get it?
Not that a new job, sweater, car, or pair of shoes isn’t awesome now and then. It’s just that many times we find ourselves unfulfilled when we finally get that thing, so we buy more things or go after another job, or relationship, or whatever shiny thing we’re drawn to. This can lead to being buried under way too much stuff, or being unsatisfied with a job or relationship we already have because we think we need a new one to be able to feel the way we want to feel.
The key here to authentic joy and lasting fulfillment is to go after the feelings, rather than the thing. To learn to create them from within. To look for ways to manifest those feelings of joy and satisfaction with what we already have, both from within ourselves and with our current situations or material possessions.
The place to begin is by focusing on the awesomeness of what is, and allowing feelings of tremendous gratitude to flow, even for the small stuff. Make it a regular practice to look around at all that’s in your life and say to yourself, “This is effing incredible!” Allow yourself to really feel it.
When you begin to focus on the feelings, two magical things will happen. First, you’ll begin to feel a more sustainable state of joy in your life because you’re living from a place of gratitude, recognizing the incredible abundance and gifts that are already in your life. All of the things in your life from material stuff to relationships will become more satisfying and amazing to you. Yes please!
Second, you’ll begin to have an automatic filter in your consciousness that will allow you to be more aware when you’re making decisions about purchases or major changes in your life. You can ask yourself, “Is it the thing I really want, or am I just looking for the feelings I think may come with it.” If the answer is the feelings, you can look inward for ways to create those feelings without the thing. You may even realize you didn’t even really want that thing in the first place.
This approach will not only help you have fewer possessions and help keep you from making life changes based on temporary circumstances; it will also make the things you do purchase and the shifts you do choose to make in your life that much more meaningful and mindful. You’ll end up with possessions and circumstances in your life that you’re totally in love with. And, you won’t have a bunch of stuff cluttering your life that just isn’t that important to you. How awesome is that?
Focusing on the feeling you’re looking for is also a great motivation tool. For example, if you’re working on a big project that you really want to complete, but you’re feeling a little uninspired and overwhelmed by the steps it will take to finish it, try closing your eyes and allowing yourself to feel the feelings of having completed it. Picture the goal accomplished and feel the fireworks of satisfaction going off in your heart. Talk about inspiration to get moving!
For me, this year, these are practices I plan to incorporate into my efforts in continuing to create this joyful, simple, amazing life that I’m living. I’m grateful for all of it.
Take a look around you, right now, and see the magic and light that is already in your life. Can you feel it?
Hi Friends! I’m noticing on social media and in conversations with friends and family that many people seem to feel that Christmas came very quickly this year, and a lot of people are stressing about finishing their holiday shopping. To that, I say this: Keep calm and simplify your giving.
One of my favorite sayings is that the best things in life are not things. So, on that note, here are three great, heartfelt, last minute gift ideas that will make anyone on your list smile.
1. Give the gift of your time. In this busy, over-plugged in world, actual face time with loved ones is precious. Write in a card that you will take your friend to lunch, dinner, a move… whatever you’re inspired to do – but make it a gift of quality time. This is one of my favorite gifts to give and to receive. Take photos and make memories.
2. Make a donation in their name to a charity you know they support. Again, you can note this inside a pretty holiday card and maybe include a print out of what the organization is currently working on. I’m passionate about marine conservation, so knowing that someone gave a gift to help save sharks or sea turtles? Awesome!
3. Be of service in some way. Give your loved one a gift of babysitting, pet sitting, or a couple of hours of your time to help them clean out their garage, closet… whatever! Know a couple that could use a night out together? Offer to babysit (and maybe even throw in a couple of movie tickets). Have a friend feeling overwhelmed by an upcoming move? Create a fun coupon for 3 hours of “packing time” and show up with boxes and newspaper for packing. Be creative!
These are all awesome gifts that are meaningful, make memories, and won’t add clutter. And, you don’t have to go to the mall!
Happy holidays blissful ones! I’m so grateful to you. Looking forward to co-creating a truly amazing 2014 together!